I often ponder what God means for us to do with the subject of beauty as it applies to our own fallen physical states. We humans tend to wilt in appearance without any effort on our part. We take a shower and eight hours later our hair is oily and our skin will be stinky. It takes considerable effort to keep healthy and trim—let alone go above and beyond appearing healthy to look physically attractive.
Many thinkers conclude that external beauty is a trivial matter God doesn’t want us to dwell upon. I get that it’s difficult to find good fitting clothes and the right fat to muscle mass ratio, but is giving up on our general appearance the right solution? Is the only reason we dress nice and comb our hair to impress others in public or to look qualified for a job at an interview? I don’t think so.
God didn’t design anything about the world to serve man’s shallow/sinful desires or misappropriated notions. Believers aren’t supposed to look good on the outside for man’s sake, but for God’s sake. As we strive to glorify God in all that we do, inner and outer beauty are important to the Lord.
But why? Why does God care about our external appearance? What biblical argument is their to support this view?
This issue arose on the blogosphere over the past few weeks. Christian blogger Tim Challies wrote on the subject of why Christian wives should make the effort to look attractive to their husbands. Challies stated:
What is outward is significant. Clothes make a statement. There is a spiritual dimension to what a person wears. Clothes can be used to attract attention and they can be used to deflect attention; they can be used to serve other people and they can be used to hinder other people. The same is true of hair (Peter speaks of both clothes and hair in 1 Peter 3) and jewelry and anything else outward…..
The way a woman relates to her spouse is a spiritual matter. And the way she dresses, the way she cares for herself, is a part of the way she relates to him. It makes a statement about her, about him, about them. Her words speak, her actions speak, but so too do her clothing, her appearance, her hygiene, her adornment.
His post was a response to another’s, and due to his post their were hundreds of comments that resulted. Ultimately, the issue was unresolved and there was a great matter of the debate left to be considered.
Then Mary Kassian, author of Girls Gone Wise chimed followed up to Tim Challies in this post. I have got to say her answer is very insightful and agreeable. It is easier to understand why God cares about outward beauty when one relates it to God’s relationship to the Church. Mary states:
Many scorn beauty as “a passing pleasure.” They think that the illusive, fragile, fading, temporary, and wrinkle-and-stretch-mark-prone nature of female beauty indicates that men (and women) should just “get over it” and focus on more important things.
Beauty is indeed a passing pleasure. But I think there’s a deeper meaning here that we dare not trivialize. The symbolic importance of beauty/beautification is not unlike the symbolic importance of marriage. Woman’s beauty, and all the broken, distorted ideas about it, will not so much pass, as give way—in the end—to that to which beauty points. There will be no marriage in heaven because the shadow will give way to the reality. Likewise, the illusive, fading, temporary beauty of women will one day give way to the breathtaking, spectacular, eternal beauty of the Bride of Christ.
Both Chalies and Kassian make apt points in their posts and I encourage you to read them in relation to the subject together.
Christians should consider why God gave us the deeply rooted desire that our spouses should be attractive to us. We should consider what our appearance communicates symbolically to our fellow man. Beauty doesn’t have to be about looking sexy—as is the worldly standard. Rather, for God’s people, outward beauty is the depiction of the spiritual condition and our relationship to our Lord.